How Gay Writers Can Build A Better Life Out of College
By Matthew Tully | April 20, 2020 6:08pm”I was never really the type to go to college,” wrote one writer who majored in English.
“I did get my degree but it was never enough.”
The writer’s mother was not too pleased.
“It was never a very good option,” she told me.
“The idea of going to college and having your career ruined by a boyfriend or girlfriend who is a complete and utter asshole.”
As the years went on, the writer’s parents were frustrated with their son’s decision.
“My parents were always telling me that my career was doomed, and that I would never make it,” he said.
“That they didn’t want me to go out and live my life.”
The writer’s father, who was a majoring in economics, took it upon himself to try to help the writer.
He had to be very persuasive.
He told the writer that if he really wanted to pursue his career he would have to go back to college.
The writer decided to attend college after a year, and he quickly earned his degree.
He took a job as a sales manager at a bank and later went on to start a small business.
“It wasn’t until I went to graduate school that I realized how badly I was screwed,” he told me, “and I finally realized that this was all just a way of making money.”
The writing life isn’t always easy.
As the writer grew older, he found that he struggled with a constant feeling of anxiety.
He felt anxious about his job, worried about his grades, and even worried about losing his job.
He also struggled with self-doubt and guilt over his decisions.
“When I was a teenager I would have panic attacks and I would feel like I was on the verge of losing my job, or of killing myself,” he wrote.
“But now I realize that my anxiety was not due to being stressed out, but to the fact that I wasn’t going to graduate.”
As he got older, the writing life got even harder.
He found himself working long hours for low pay.
“Even though I am a good writer, my job was not good enough,” he explained.
“So I had to figure out a way to get better at my job to get paid.”
The Writer’s Journey”I thought I was going to make it, and I thought I had it all figured out,” he continued.
“Now, I’m sitting here thinking about how I got to this point in my life and I’m wondering, ‘Is there any way I can get back on my feet?'”
But the writer had a plan.
He decided to go straight to law school.
He applied to a bunch of schools, and finally got accepted to the University of Florida.
“There I started doing a lot of studying, and a lot more reading,” he remembered.
“And I started feeling more comfortable with my body and with my sexuality.”
In the fall of 2020, the Writer’s journey was complete.
He went to his first class of law students.
“As soon as I walked in the door, I knew I was accepted,” he says.
“Everything was going according to plan.”
He graduated in February 2021.
“As soon I got into my first class, I was really nervous,” he remembers.
“All of a sudden I could see that I was comfortable.
I felt more comfortable than I had ever felt before in my whole life.
And I knew it was the right thing to do.
The way I felt was not going to be an issue later.”
For the next few years, he was happy and successful.
He moved to his home state of New York to pursue a career in the film industry.
But his life wasn’t as smooth.
“A couple of years into law school, I had a very serious depression and a very difficult relationship with my family,” he writes.
“For the first time in my entire life, I realized that I had made the wrong decision to marry.”
In early 2019, the father’s life was on fire again.
“One day I was out in the middle of a street in New York, I turned around and there was my mother, and she had been killed by her boyfriend,” he recalled.
“She was a really tough, determined woman.
I just remember thinking, ‘Wow, what have I done?'”
He spent the next two years trying to find solace in other people’s pain.
“Over the course of those two years, I made some very difficult choices,” he admitted.
“Some people I knew went through the same thing.
But for me, it was more difficult because I didn’t know what to do next.
I didn, like, have the answers.”
The Writing LifeThe Writer decided to focus on writing a book.
He spent about a year and a half crafting his first draft of a story.
“Writing was the only thing I had,” he reflected.
“This was a very different experience